I realized that I was a victim of financial abuse and was terrified for my life, my well-being, and my future.
From Silent Control to Financial Freedom
Even a love so deep and so real can become your worst nightmare.
And the thing is, he was kind… loving… generous…
Until I stopped normalizing behaviour that made me feel unsafe and suspicious.
I think most women are dedicated to the belief that our partner – our loved one – would never put us in danger –
We don’t notice the signs – because most of us have never been exposed to this type of abuse.
We deny our intuition time and time again…
Knowing deep down that something is just not… “right.”
Signs like…
- Not being transparent about the family’s finances.
- Withholding access to money or financial information, while positioning it as “protection” or “management.”
- Questioning or undermining your financial decisions, making you feel incapable, irresponsible, or dependent
- Creating fear or consequences around asking questions, so you learn to stay quiet to keep the peace.
When I realized I was experiencing some level of financial abuse, I had a nervous breakdown.
I thought immediately, “I am not safe…”
And spent months terrified, ashamed, frustrated, and confused…
I never felt more alone in my entire life.
Now that I am on the other side, having finally closed the door to a devastating period of my life…
I wish more women knew who to go to when they felt there was something suspicious happening in their relationship, especially when it comes to finances.
I wish more women knew how to navigate difficult conversations about money, even though there is a deep-rooted fear of speaking up.
I wish more women knew how to develop a personalized financial game plan to strategically exit a relationship for the sake of self-preservation and dignity.
And I wish more women knew that financial abuse is common – and there is nothing to be ashamed of.
As a matter of fact, according to Statistics Canada, shelters found that about 50–51% of domestic violence survivors reported experiencing financial or economic abuse while in an abusive relationship.
When I realized that I was in a financially abusive relationship, I was shocked, angry, and terrified.
I felt sick to my stomach, my nervous system was in shambles, and I became vigilant and extremely paranoid.
Eventually, I realized I needed to protect myself and my kids ASAP.
I realized I had two choices: ignore the behaviour or plan for my freedom.
I chose freedom. Financial freedom.
A life where I was no longer tolerating financially destructive behaviour…
I’ll never forget the moment that I wiped my tears, picked myself back up, and formulated a strategic financial game plan that would protect me – before it broke me.
That moment liberated me from the lingering fear of my future.
I doubled down on my spiritual path and meditated for guidance, wisdom, and strength to push through to overcome devastation, delay, or paralysis.
I decided to become resilient – and unstoppable in my pursuit to build financial freedom, even though I was heartbroken, scared, and angry.
I practiced resilience by consciously not letting my emotions take over my intelligence, my wisdom, and my faith. I chose daily to become the eye of the storm and to develop deep compassion for the person who destroyed my trust, while committing to my freedom and the preservation of my dignity.
I decided that I was no longer going to be a victim of financial abuse – and focused intensely on building my Freedom Fund, without announcing my next bold move to anyone – but a coach.
A coach who had the capacity to help me navigate my next bold move.
I decided that I was no longer going to tolerate or be ignorant of what was happening behind my back –
And instead of allowing myself to be made a fool –
I sat down with a financial strategist who could help me build the financial freedom I needed to start a new life.
I used my energy to generate the money I needed to ESCAPE, without further emotional, mental, or financial damage.
In two years, I built my Freedom Fund to a point where I could walk away with peace, power, and posture.
If it wasn’t for digital income – and the opportunity to make money from home… from my phone… without having to leave my children or get a job…
If it wasn’t for the limitless opportunities available online that I took advantage of and mastered…
I would not have been able to create the Freedom Fund required to support myself, my children, and our future.
Through forgiveness and compassion, I was able to access my personal power.
I stopped resenting the behaviour and started building my character.
And in the end, I tapped into a fire in my belly that carried me into a land of limitless potentiality, breathtaking freedom, and a deepened love for myself – and for the life I know that I deserve.
Who knew that the one thing that almost broke me…
It would become the very thing that would build me.
Financial abuse is not ok – but you can escape it.
I practiced resilience by consciously not letting my emotions take over my intelligence, my wisdom, and my faith. I chose daily to become the eye of the storm and to develop deep compassion for the person who destroyed my trust, while committing to my freedom and the preservation of my dignity,
Become vigilant and build a freedom fund now. Build your support system, create a financial strategy, and commit to doing whatever it takes to preserve your dignity and to protect your financial future.
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