Time For An Upgrade with Tracy Mathews | 012

Welcome back to another episode of Resilient AF with Blair and

Alana. Hold the Alana, but cue Tracy Matthews.

So excited that she is here today. Tracy and I

go well, it feels like we go way back, but we met only in

02/22. And it was just, like, such

a game changer meeting her, on so many different levels.

We live in different parts of the continent, different countries.

We've now met up in, like, Miami and in Mexico and

in Arizona and I don't know where else. New York maybe?

I don't know. Well, we're going to be meeting in New York. Will be New

well, yeah. By the time this records, we would have met in New York. And

thank God for the Internet and text messages because, Tracy, like, I just admire

you. You're so inspirational. And the fact that your story is

in Resilient AF, Stories of Resilience volume 2, and that you're here to

talk about reinvention is just such an honor.

Well, thanks for having me, Blair. I'm so excited to be here. I love talking

about reinvention, and my story inside, Resonient

AF is 1 of my first reinvention stories.

Well, let's talk about it. What like, what happened? Why did you have to reinvent

yourself? Can I just say something first before we talk about that?

Yeah. Because, from the second I met you and especially when

we dressed up the first night at the event that we were at and you

wore that sparkly silver coat, I knew we we were gonna be friends.

I mean Yes. There was no other choice. No. I mean, it's kind of

a moth to a flame. I know. I mean, like, if you don't

like that coat, you don't deserve my friendship. But, like, that coat, that

was the first time I ever had worn that jacket because I bought it in

the peak of the pandemic. And when I met you, it was the first time,

like, Canada opened their borders, and it was, like, my first trip after, like, everyone

died. And I was just like, this jacket needs to come out. And I was

so excited to wear it, and I'm so happy that it drew you to

me. It's such a great jacket, and it was such a fun night. And I

loved or a fun experience and a fun event and the whole thing. It

was all perfect. So So yeah. Here we go. All the

friends in common and Yeah. And, you know, I just wanna say, like,

because we haven't started talking about Tracy's story yet, but we met at a business

event, and we developed probably, like, I'd say a lifelong friendship. And you just

never know who you're gonna come across, and I decided to go to this

event that was it it was fairly, for me, expensive at the

time. And, also, I didn't know anyone. I I got on a plane. I flew

to Mexico, and I went to this business event with 200 plus other people, and

I didn't know anyone. I took a chance because I believe in

me, and I believe in you. So you should do it too. Yeah. Yep.

All should do it. Take a risk. Get on the plane. Get on the plane.

Wear the sparkles. Attract the Tracys.

Oh, man. So, yeah, your your reinvention started

because something really tragic happened to you. Yeah. So

like many people, when a parent dies and

it's unexpected, it kind of throws

you into a little bit of a why am I here

moment, and I am not gonna waste my life type of

moment. So I don't know what you want me to share, but do you want

me to share kind of what happened? Okay. Please do. Cool.

So, I mean, it wasn't cool, but cool. Third one. We're

good. Cool. So I was 21 at

the time. I had just yeah. I think it it was, like,

on the verge maybe my 20 birthday. And

I had always been a super creative person

wanting to get back and

develop some sort of creative path in my life. And that's

sort of like, the context for part of this story.

And my mom, super healthy, very thin,

super vibrant, energetic woman, spent her entire life

raising 6 children. My parents got divorced when I was

15. And in that divorce, you know, like

many divorces, there was a big battle over, you

know, resources and what was gonna happen later. So my mom had to

actually go to work probably for the first time in

not her adult life, but in in many, many years because she had spent most

of her time raising children. And

she got divorced, was, like, starting this career, decided decided

to start her own business, met a man. Like, everything

was going for her. And I was so proud of her

because I you know, when I think back to the earlier days of my mom,

especially, like, right after she was getting divorced, there was a lot

of drama. There was a lot of victim mentality. Like,

how could he do this to me? And how could he leave me? And, like,

and feeling like, oh, well, I should be taken care of and kind of stuff.

And that, you know, that mentality even in and of itself really,

created something in me. Like, I don't ever want to have to rely on someone

else to survive because it was a huge serve

like, she was in a mode of survival, but also kind of

in this victim mentality. So when she started to pick herself

up and start on this path to starting her own business

and meeting this man, they were engaged and,

like, her life had just, like, started over. I'd never seen her so

happy. So it was right around Easter time, and,

she says to me, Tracy, I'm gonna do an elective surgery. I'm gonna go

in the hospital and get this thing done. And I was like, what is it?

She's like, reconstructive bladder surgery, which was not a lie,

but it wasn't the full truth of what was happening. And,

I think I'd been planning on going to my grandparent. She was

living in my grandparents' beach house at the time, and I think I was

planning on going to meet some friends up with some friends

there while she was still gonna be, like, recovering in the hospital or on the

next day home. And so, at that time, I was in LA,

at university, and we drove down to Orange County to go see her

in the hospital on our way to the beach house in San Clemente. So I

went in to see her in the hospital, and she

kept telling me, you know, they're a little

bit concerned. My feet are really swollen.

You know, they're not they weren't expecting this kind of bruising.

And the 1 of the doctors came in and, you know,

they measure your lung capacity or something when you're when you have major surgery.

And they were measuring her lung capacity, and they were saying, like, oh, that's not

doesn't it's not really good. You're supposed to go home tomorrow. I'm not sure what's

going on there. So, like, is everything okay, mom? And and someone else had come

in to visit her too, and so I didn't really get quality time with her.

And my friends were outside to come pick me up. So I'm like, oh, you

know, just thinking as a an optimistic 21 year old, not thinking

anything of it. I leave.

We head down to my grandparents' house. I meet my boyfriend there. My best friends,

Kate and Rich, are there. We're getting ready to cook dinner, and

we have some other friends coming over, and we're just about to have a blast,

you know, and do our little college day things and, like, wrap up our

senior year or whatever and or their senior year. I was taking a break at

the time. And I the

phone rings at the house, my grandparents' house where my mom was living.

And my friend, Rich, picks up the phone, and all of a

sudden, his mouth drops, and he looks gray. And I'm like and he's a

Colombian guy, so he's kind of, like, darker skinned. And I'm like,

what? And he's like, well, maybe you should talk to her daughter.

And he hands me the phone. Like, I think of this

moment. Hands me the phone, and what was

being said on the other line just, like, literally could not

register. Like, I couldn't register it. And what they

were saying was, we don't think she's going to make it.

You need to get down here right now, and you need to

call Doug Byers, who was, like, her boyfriend or

whatever at the time or her fiance.

And you need to call, like, get call anyone who needs to know and be

here. Like, get to the hospital right now. Like, we had just I had just

left. And, what happened is they

had gotten her up from the bed the

first time in, like, three days, and she was throwing blood clots, and they didn't

pick it up. And they she threw a blood

clot, went into her lungs, suffocated, collapsed,

died, couldn't breathe, like, gasping. I mean, that's what they tell us. I don't know.

I wasn't there. But I was the last person to see her,

in my family before she died. So I was the person who had to call

everyone and tell them what was going on. It was crazy. And we were

all kind of, like, in college or something at the time. Later,

we found out, that she didn't just have reconstructive bladder surgery, but she

had a tummy tuck and liposuction, and my mom was very thin. She

was probably a hundred and twenty five pounds and five eight.

So very tall, very thin, didn't really I

mean, the reconstructive bladder surgery was she wanted because she was, like,

having incontinence from having so many kids. And so when she would

laugh, she would sometimes pee her pants. So that kinda made sense,

but the other things, like, didn't I'm like, what? Like, didn't really make

sense, at all because I'm like, you didn't need that.

Like, what was the point? And I think the

saddest part about this story is what I started

with is that she finally had her life together and was finally, like,

following her dreams. And then all of a

sudden, it was gone, like,

in minutes. Yeah. And, I mean, so

many lessons were learned from me at a very young age about

following your dreams and not letting your life go by.

Because life is so short, we don't know when

we're gonna go. And if we're not living every single day in alignment with

what matters to us and our purpose and passion and all these

things, like, we're basically wasting our life. I mean,

I look at look at that time, and I look at her, and it makes

me so sad because I mean, obviously, I'm devastated because I

lost my mother. I mean, this was so long ago now. I was I'm 53,

so I was only 21, about to be 22 at that time.

And I look back at that, and I still get that same

emotion because, like,

what a waste. You know? She was 45 years old. Like, what a waste.

Wow, Tracy. Thank you so much for sharing, and I

am so sorry. That's just so many levels of

traumaticness at once.

What's your mom's name? Her name is was Carlene.

May Carlene's memory be a blessing. Thank you.

So you're 21 or 22. You've lost

your mom. Is

that what triggered the first reinvention for you? Well

yes. So, I mean, it it spurred a lot in me

because for me, I was such a passionate, motivated

person. Like, I I really wanted to make something of my life, and I

think part of that was shaped by the fact that I feel like my

mom always relied on other people for her happiness instead of creating

her own happiness Yeah. From within and, you

know, financial well-being and all that stuff. And, you know, I was this was the

Right? Everyone's like, women's empowerment and, you know, women can do

everything. You know, all the things. So I knew I wanted to be,

like, start my own business or something. I didn't know what I was gonna do,

but I didn't know what to do. And at that time, I think I was

working in retail at Nordstrom as a salesperson, and

I had taken, two years in between my sophomore

year and junior year in college. And so

there was a lot that happened that allowed me an opportunity to actually

get back to school. I was able to get a grant to help finish school

because part of the issue was that I couldn't pay for the tuition, and I

was working full time. So I went back to school, and I found a jewelry

making class. And that jewelry making class is

the thing where I really was like, oh my gosh. This is my thing. My

teacher was amazing. She mentored me and

really encouraged me to explore this,

creativity and this creative gift that I had. And she said to me

I remember this, and it might not have been the exact word, but she said

something along the lines of, you know, Tracy, you have something that a lot

of people don't have. Like, your goods from a skill set

perspective of making the jewelry, but the thing that you really have an

eye for is an eye for design and knowing what people are gonna wanna

buy. Because I would make this jewelry, and people would just buy it off of

me, like, in my college or whatever. And she's like, it's a it's I

only see people like this come through every once in a while. Most people take

this class because they wanna make a ring or, you know, learn how to carve

some wax. Like, they're not there's not no potential for them in the

future. You know, it's just kind of a hobby for them.

But consider this. Like, consider what you can do. So,

because of, you know, my circumstances and everything,

my university, I went to Loyola Marymount in LA.

They created, like, a special major for me, like, a special studies major. I got

to take a humanities major, but with this fine arts,

that so I took all of my fine arts classes in jewelry.

Ended up eventually getting married right after I graduated

from university to my college boyfriend.

And he's like, okay. So when we get settled in San Francisco after

we move up there and I find a job, then why don't we

work on a plan where you can quit your job and you could do your

jewelry full time? And so I launched my

jewelry company in my late twenties, and that,

like, inspired, like, a whole series of other events and businesses,

and it was amazing. But it really, you know, transitioned

me from thinking, okay. Like, I'm just gonna have

a life working in retail and owning a boutique to, like, actually, I can be

a business owner and launch this brand.

And it really gave me the courage to go for it. I I

love that, and your jewelry is amazing. Every time I see you, I'm like, I

want a piece. You're like, well, you can commission 1. Because it

like, you took that course almost thirty years ago.

Well, it's 02/24. So Yeah. That's

yeah. Thirty one years ago, she died. Like, three decades. And so, like,

you your business itself has had many

reinvests within it. Mhmm. You know? And, you know, I

think I think if you're not reinventing and changing, you you become stale. You

become a fish in the water. And, like, you have to change. Like, thirty one

years ago, Instagram wasn't a thing. Social media wasn't a thing.

Like, I It was not a thing. No. No. Was was emails? I don't even

know. Maybe next. Not when I started. I didn't even have an email address. You

know, pick up the phone and call people. I tell people this all the time.

We didn't have smartphones. I had, like, a, you know, 1 of those phones that

had a built in answering machine. Yeah. People messages. I had a fax

machine, Blair. You know, I don't even know what that is. I had a fax

machine when I start I had a coupon company I started because I wanted free

yoga. So I started a health and wellness coupon company, and I

bought a fax machine because I thought that made me official, and it did.

But, really, it was also a photocopier, and, like, my friends would come over and

get drunk, and we'd just, like, photocopy our faces. So you know?

So you switched also. Like, you wrote a book. You wrote a best selling book.

You, coach jewelry designers in starting their

businesses. Mhmm. You were telling me that you're

about to you're you're stepping into another A new

another epic maybe not even chapter, but book, a reinvention

with a big r, a big reinvention. This is a big

reinvention. It's so scary. It's even scary to talk about because

I it it feels

like so expansive and exciting. And can I tell a

little backstory about how all this stuff came about? Yes. Of course. Please do.

So I'm I'm watching a new program called the art of reinvention because I've been

through so many reinventions in my life, and I've seen this

trend. Well, not this trend, but there's a lot of people who have

been in business for a while who are bored right now. They're

really, craving something different,

but their businesses are doing well. And so they're they're

kind of in this place of, like, golden handcuffs, not really knowing,

like, how do I pivot out of this into a new audience or a new

message, or how do I take my audience along with me

and launch this new version of myself and get out into

the world? And for some people, you know, if you're in branding or something like

that, maybe it's not the biggest challenge. But for a lot of people, you know,

they're they're like, how do I go from doing this

to going over here and doing this and, like, really upgrade into this

person that I'm supposed to be who's leading a movement

or a calling? So, about

five or six years ago, I was at a Brendon Burchard event, and

he asked us. He's like, go get in groups, and then I want you

to share something that

basically he didn't say this because, yeah, he doesn't swear, but he

said, share can I swear on here? Write down

something that scares the shit out of you and but a big

goal that you wanna hit 1 day. Day. Yeah. And so I wrote down and

I I never even thought about this before, but, like, I just trusted the first

thing that came to mind, and it was to do a TED talk with

20000000 views. And I was talking to this couple. I don't

know. They help couples or whatever. I guess they're they were kinda famous or something.

And, they're like, wow. That's so cool.

And that's when the name Creatives Rule the World came to

me, which is gonna be my rebranded podcast, which will be launching in

which I'm Yay. About. Yay. Another reinvention because I've had this

podcast, Thrive by Design, that you've been on, Blair Yes. For many,

many years. And, it's time to upgrade that.

So after this Brendon Burchard event, I went and looked up, like, TED

Talks or TEDx Talks or whatever, and the most listened to TED TEDx

stars, Tracy, because I love it. You could totally do it. Like, why not?

I know. But I had no idea. I wasn't necessarily thinking I was gonna

do that 1 that was, like, the top top. Yeah.

So that started this process. I started this new brand called Creatives

Rule the World, and then the pandemic started, which put everything on the back

burner. So I felt like I was in this place of stagnation for years.

And so I'm finally at a place where I'm ready to step into

this new direction and the person that I'm, like,

literally here to be, which is to inspire

people to really tap into their creative gifts

and take it to another level, to lead movements, to to, like, change the

world. So that's kind of where I'm going with this, and,

it feels really big. It feels freaking terrifying.

And I would say I don't know what I'm doing, but that's a lie because

I do know what I'm doing. And, it's 1 of those things where it's just

because it is so personal and real,

like, it feels like a big risk. But without

risk, there's no reward, so I'm willing to do it. And, you know, we're gonna

see. I'm excited because you are like, anyone that works with you is very

lucky because you have, like, this wealth of information. And, like,

I like, I've worked with clients who've worked with you, and

I've spoken at your events, like, with my other hat on my story well,

I guess storytelling is my current hat also, but marketing and storytelling and,

the those jewelry designers that start their businesses, their businesses

thrive, and you are a big part of that. So I'm excited to see where

the art of reinvention goes and and your offerings,

especially because, like, I'm I'm gonna be 40 in

Aug. 0, and my PR agency just turned 16, and

I mostly retired. Like, I I let go of those golden

handcuffs, and it's fucking scary because I'm in

startup mode. And, like, I never wanted to be in startup mode again, but

I was juggling too many balls. And I was like, what is driving my passion,

and what's filling my heart? And so I kept a little bit of, like,

coaching, and helping entrepreneurs

be visible in the media, like, helping with publicity, but I'm in the

middle of I'm in the well, I guess, I have been reinventing myself without attention

intentionally trying to and being aware of it, but, I mean,

I'm stepping into a world as a grief and resilience expert where a lot

of people in the business world know me as a social media and publicity expert.

So it's interesting because I am I'm I'm in the reinvention stage. So

I'm excited to do this alongside with you, Tracy. I'm excited for

you. I'm excited for you. Let's just, like, hold hands and run into the sunset

of reinvention together because, I mean, you've done it before. Now

I have a couple of final questions before we wrap up because we're gonna run

out of time. How do you think losing your mom,

in your early twenties has inspired

the art of reinvention.

Life's too fucking short. Life's too fucking short. And you know what?

It's true. I freaked out and went open to children's center for at risk youth

in Ghana. Everyone died, and I was like, I I gotta go save

the world. But really, you know, you you don't have to do something so

drastic, but life is short. If you're not happy doing what you're

doing, change it. Like, gone are the days where you get a job and have

it for forty years. Like, you don't need to get that, like, forty years of

service button. And if you do, fantastic. Like, cool. But, like, there's

nothing wrong with changing up what you do. Whether you're an entrepreneur or you have

a job, if you're not happy, do something new. Like, I mean, every so often,

I think about, like, starting a cat cafe. And, like, my sister always is like,

if I don't need to work, I'd get a job at a bookstore. You know

what I mean? Like, you get to reinvent yourself. Like, you are in control.

Right? Mhmm. It's true. Yes. We are all in

control Yeah. Of our outcomes. But I think what ends

up happening, and I've just seen this with a lot of my friends and the

people that I've spoken to and the people who are preordering and

securing their seats early in this program, is that a lot of them

want the accountability to actually do the thing because it's really easy

to put it on hold because what you're doing is so

easy. It's not necessarily that you've you've if you

started a business before, you could probably figure out how to start a new business.

That's not an issue, but it's about, like, having that accountability to

move through it and and going through, like, the natural progression of steps

to let go of the thing that's not working and then to build the brand

around the thing that is working. Yes. And, like, being

okay to, like, let things go, start new things,

and be like, pivot. Like, you have to, like, you have to be able to

pivot and change and adapt. Mhmm. I love that, Tracy.

How do you how do you define reinvention?

I think of it as the upgrade.

Upgrade. I love that. Yeah. And the reason why I think of that

so there's this great story. You're gonna see this hummingbird these hummingbirds behind

me. And if you're watching the the visual version, I don't know if this is

audio only or It's both. It's both. Okay. But

there's a story about the hummingbird. I I've done a lot of plant medicine journeys

and healing over the past five years, which has been part of this reinvention process.

And, I was doing a journey once in this,

facilitator or healer that I was with. He's like, I feel hummingbird energy around there.

And I, like, looked it up after and, like, it's visionary. It's, like, you know,

fast moving, moving forward, like, all these things, like, nurturing

and, you know, pollinating the forest, like, all all these symbolisms

of, like, what, hummingbird is. So I've always had this,

like, close thing with Hummingbird. So long story short, I've

been working on my new brand and going through a whole process with that.

And the the vibe that had that kept coming

up was this phoenix rising, but I don't know. Like, a

burning bird out of like, a burning Phoenix for some reason out

of, these flames wasn't really landing with me. It also

reminds me of Phoenix, which I live in the Phoenix area, and it reminds me

of, like, hell because it's so hot here. Yeah. You're like,

nope. So on my birthday this year,

I was speaking or I spoke the day before, but I was at this

my friend, Kathy Heller's event about podcasting. And I

happened to run into an old friend of mine named Darla, and I was there

with my friend, Chris. And the night before, I got

really triggered by my partner, and it's not his fault. It was just something that

needed to happen to come up, actually. But I couldn't sleep all night. You know,

when you're having those, like, my birthday is really

freaking important to me, and so I wanna have a great day, you know, the

whole thing. And I was missing him and all this stuff. And

so I couldn't sleep all night. I was a mess. Like, my adrenaline was,

like, pulsing through my veins. I was just, like, really upset.

So the next morning, my friend, Chris, calls me. She's like, hey, are you ready

to go? And I was like, start crying. She's like, what's going on? She's like,

I'll be right there. And she's an amazing healer, and she's like,

what do you need right now? And I'm like, I need to see

a sign. And I'm and she's like, okay. Well, what

kind of sign do you need to see? And I said, a hummingbird. Me

meanwhile, we're in the middle of

Sunset Boulevard in LA.

There's no hummingbirds. It's like traffic and

all the things. Are you hearing my siren? Yeah. Is that

you? I thought it was maybe me. Well, it's not. It's okay. It's okay.

We're we're real people in Real life. Sorry. You're the boss.

Completely soundproof to us. Hopefully, someone's okay. Yeah. I know. Yes.

Yeah. Anyway, so I asked for this sign to see a hummingbird, and

it's my birthday, you know, the whole thing. It takes us about an hour to

get out of where we were, and we end up going to the

event. And, you know, on your birthday, everyone's texting you or whatever.

So I open up Facebook, and we sit

down and I open up Facebook, and I'm looking at it. And I'm

like, oh my god.

And I show this picture to Chris. There someone her

cousin, Chris's cousin, three days before had posted a

picture of a hummingbird on my profile with this old

tale on it about, this,

this forest, this rainforest that was on fire, and there were all these, like,

you know, indigenous people and sages. And there was, this

panther, and all the animals were walking out of the away from the

fire. And this hummingbird was flying back into the fire, and the

panther stopped the hummingbird and said, what are you doing?

And the hummingbird said back to the panther, well, I'm going

to get some water to try to put out the fire. I mean, how ridiculous

is that? Like, a hummingbird's beak is so small. It doesn't even

like, you wouldn't be able to put out a huge forest fire,

with this small beak of water. And so they're like, well,

that's you you're not gonna put the fire out, the panther says to her, and

she's like, well, I have to at least try. You know?

The you know? Basically, like, the

forest is what feeds me. I pollinate the forest with my

with my, you know, with my beak and, like, all these things that she was

going through this whole cycle of life. And she's like,

this is this is, like, our world. We have to try to save what's

here if we can. And so

the panther's like, okay. So the the

hummingbird goes back to this lake, picks up a small beak of water, and as

soon as she starts flying back, a huge torrential downpour comes and puts the fire

out and saves the forest. And it's the whole

story was about, you know, showing up and contributing

and doing your part. Right? Mhmm. In this process of

evolution and reinvention that you're in. So So the reason why I'm sharing this

story is because Phoenix Rising did not

really land with me from a reinvention standpoint. What it what

really landed with me was this hummingbird rising idea.

Like, a hummingbird rising out of the forest fire and doing their

part to step into, you know, this biggest

glory and gift that they have to give to the universe.

I love it. And I also love hummingbirds. And I think

you also may have seen a few other hummingbirds that day.

Right? Oh, yeah. You heard the you didn't I didn't finish the rest. Thank you

for leading me that. Sorry. You just So then You stayed to share because it's

coming very, very clear. This is the first hummingbird story.

Then I go out to lunch, and my friend, Chris, wants to buy me lunch.

And I've the message right before that was like, you need to allow people to

give to you if you wanna receive, and I didn't let her do that, but

whatever. We made a little joke out of it. And she's like, do you wanna

walk around? We still have a little bit of time before we have to go

back. And I'm like, sure. So you walk into the store called Alice and Olivia

on Melrose. And I bought a suit from there for a photo shoot that

I was doing a while back. And I was like, they had some new colorful

things and I love things with color. So we walk in, and Chris and I

are looking around, and I wanted to try on a top. So I walk around

the corner, and I look into the dressing room, and I was like asked the

salesperson. I was like, is that a hummingbird? And she's

like, yeah. So I was like, oh my

god. Chris, you have to look at this. Chris is, like, die if you knew

my friend, Chris, she's, like, this petite woman who just has the best laugh,

and she's, like, dying laughing. She's like, see? She's like,

you asked for a hummingbird. Then we go, like, 3 other places. We see

hummingbirds freaking everywhere. They're not hummingbirds flying in the air, but, like,

bit like, hummingbirds on a a welcome mat, hummingbirds on a plate. Like, it just,

like, random things that you wouldn't expect. So be careful

what you ask for and pay attention to the freaking signs because

the universe is trying to show you something. You may not know what it

is, but, like, open your freaking eyes because everything

will change. I love that. I I, yeah, I

just had a really cool experience with signs as well where I was asking for

a sign from my mom. And first, she sent me like, I asked for a

specific sign, and I I've shared this on other episodes. But, like,

the high level is, like, I was, like, also I'm in a reinvention. I'm like,

am I doing the right thing? I just, like, need a sign. Like, you know,

should I just, like, get a job and make coffee in a coffee shop? Like,

I don't know. Like, I'm always like, what am I doing? Like, do I why

do I like, I make my life harder than it needs to be and but

it's because that's how I think. My mom's name is Sharon, and so I get

to the border. Like, I was driving to Montana, to Lisa's, and I

was, like, I need a sign, mom. Like, send me

eagles. Send me an eagle or a peacock. I get to the border. I was

like, I need to go to the bathroom. Where's the nearest bathroom? And the guy's

like, oh, there's honey buckets. Like, outhouses right there, or you can go half an

hour down the road. There's a really great cafe named Sharon's. I'm like, oh my

gosh. I was like, okay. And I was driving. I was like, mom, was that

you? Is that the sign? And then as I asked that, an eagle swooped

down. Stop. And then I was like, mom, that for sure was you.

Right? And then an hour later, another eagle. She's like,

hello? Oh. And then I picked up my friend Tim's sketchbook,

and I flip it open. And it's like, this is like, there's no there's no

method to the madness. Like, he's a very talented artist. I pick it up, a

quote about peacocks. And I got home, and I

felt refreshed. And I was like, I'm on the right path. Sharon said so 4

times. There you go. I love it. Peacocks and

hummingbirds. Birds of a feather and different feathers flock together, and that's why

Yeah. Me, the peacock, and you, the hummingbird, are such great

friends. Love it. I love it. So do you have something

for our audience? I think you do. I do. It is a it is

a reinvention guide, so you can check it out in the show notes. So just

click that link. Or if you have any questions about the artwork you mentioned, please

feel free to reach out to me on Instagram, which I'm sure will be in

the show notes as well. Yeah. All of your her links all of your links

are in the show notes. Go dive into her world. You wanna learn from

her. You know, she's a really cool human. I love her social medias,

so I'm excited to see how the art of reinvention shows up on

social media, how you reinvent yourself there. And

what advice do you have for someone who is feeling like it's

time for a reinvention? Great question.

Well, the first piece the first step really

is to just admit to yourself that you're ready to move forward. You

know, they say that the first step is just acknowledging where you

are, and I think from there, you can

start to get clarity on where you wanna go. You know, my reinvention started

five years ago at a Brendon Burchard event when I had this idea and something

came up. You need to do this TED Talk, and then the brand creatives rule

of the world came about. And that started me on this

trajectory of this new version of what I'm

doing. And so listen to the signs

and pay attention. And, you know, if

if you're in that stage of feeling like you need a

reinvention, just start with the easiest

step, like admitting to yourself, like, it's time for something new and it's

time for an upgrade. And then from there, you can start building and moving

into that new direction. Yes. It is time for an upgrade.

So if this resonates with you, it's probably time for an upgrade. It's time for

an upgrade. If you wake up in the morning dreading what you gotta do and

it happens every day, might be time for an upgrade. Time for an

upgrade. Time for an upgrade. Repeat everything you say. Yeah. I love

it. Yeah. Feeling a little sad with your state of

affairs in life, might be time for an upgrade. So Yeah. It's time for an

upgrade. Upgrade. Time for an upgrade. And, Tracy can help guide

you through that upgrade. So thank you so much for joining us

on Resilient AF. Thank you so much for having me, Blair.

And thank you to everyone who tuned in for another episode. You know,

it's totally okay to not be okay. You're not doing this thing

called life alone. We'll hold your hand. We can be that

lighthouse in the storm. You will get through it sometimes

moment by moment. But friends, just remember, you are

resilient AF.